Emily Pesce would like to take her family and kids to visit her parents at their home in Florida. But as a trans woman who's all too aware of
"My mom is paralyzed with fear, and our relationship is affected by me being trans — not because she can't accept me, but because she's convinced that someone is going to hurt me or my family," Pesce says. "I can't go [to Florida] and I can't bring my family."
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Pesce's experience illuminates the fact that anti-LGBTQ legislation does not just impact individuals, but entire family units, whether they are comprised of
"We underestimate the mental stress that this can cause to families," she says. In her own experience, she and her partner work to be open and honest with their kids about the news and the potential realities they may soon face, while being careful not to let themselves be overwhelmed.
"When Trump gave that speech on gender a couple months ago, that hit me really hard," Pesce recalls, referencing when former U.S. president Donald Trump, in January, vowed to punish doctors for providing gender affirming care should he be reelected. "I had to sit down with my partner and say, 'I had a bad day today. This really hurt.' And we talked through it. When and if the kids have questions, we try to address them as openly as we can, and maybe it's not full vulnerability because I'm their parent, but it's really important to be able to talk."
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The ability to talk openly, especially for kids whose families are
"[This news is] overwhelming to people who are just watching it from the outside," says Kate Steinle, chief clinical officer at Folx Health, a digital healthcare service provider that caters to the LGBTQ community. "But when you are a community member and it is your life and your health that is being talked about in these political circles, it's hard not to feel traumatized all the time. They're asking: 'Why can't you just let me live?'"
Members of the LGBTQ community tend to be more likely to experience a
"One of the opportunities for employers is to acknowledge that you're a parent — queer or otherwise. When you're hyperventilating a little bit, who are you going to talk to?" Pesce says. "Even in open and accepting places, they may not want people to notice this happening under their roof. Employers should acknowledge that much like school is an outlet for kids to get their pronouns respected, work is a place where this discourse probably happens."
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Despite the wealth of information employers have on mental health struggles within the LGBTQ community, there is yet to be any quantifiable data on how anti-LGBTQ legislation is
"Anytime someone sees themselves on the outside or othered, it doesn't automatically translate to, 'I'm different and that's what makes me special,'" she says. "It goes to, 'I'm different and that's what makes me less than.' That's when we'll really see the psychological ramifications."
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"There's one layer of this demographic [maybe being] depressed and anxious because of the stress associated with what's going on in the news," Dr. Murphy says. "But now they don't know if they can necessarily be themselves at work, because they're worried about job security, about political comments from co-workers, and that they could be denied a promotion because of how their boss sees them. It's even more nuanced and layered than before."
To start to soothe those fears, experts suggest ensuring that
"How are you telling your employees that you understand it's a difficult time for families? How are you saying, 'you're not alone, you're part of a community'?" Pesce asks. "You don't have to say you can fix it all, [but you can say] that somebody here cares about you and cares about you more than your work output. It's really as simple as that."